Charisma has the power to attract

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StarMetro, Wednesday, 25 September 2013
Sight & Sounds by Wandra Ooi
CHARISMA, THE POWER TO ATTRACT

In day-to-day interaction, one of the most impressive traits is something that pictures don’t usually convey very well – charisma.  Charisma is more than simple charm or an engaging personality.  Charisma definitely goes beyond looks.  It’s a magnetic pull that is so intangible.

One of the most basic understandings about charisma is that it lies in the exchange.  Charisma has the power to attract, foster trust and truly engage.  It’s the ability to turn a ‘no’ into a ‘yes’ simply because people like you.

Charisma, like any skill or talent, can be acquired.  Take time and make effort to hone a skill that help gain friends and influence people.  We like to be around people whose cups are always half full instead of half empty; people who can turn a negative vibe into a positive one with their optimism and enthusiasm.

Charismatic isn’t just about being cheerful, passionate or energetic.  Many people confuse charisma with being an extrovert.  Charismatic people take work seriously, but they don’t take themselves too seriously.  They are not easily offended because they find different point of views interesting instead of insulting; and they are not easily embarrassed because they can laugh at themselves.

We like people who are aware that it’s not all about them; people who are genuinely interested when they speak to us.  Charismatic people make the conversation about the other person, not about themselves and this is one of the most useful tools to remember when talking to someone.

For some people, genuine interest in people takes conscious effort.  Small talk is never useless of forced banter.  People with charisma have the magis to make you feel like you’re the only person in a roomful of people.  Genuine interest shows in active listening, responding accordingly, te way we speak and is also reflected in our body speak, our eyes, and our smile.

Self-consciousness is something that charismatic people lack, simply because they know that it’s never about them but about the other person or the audience.  This awareness leads to truly engage with people.