THE 3 IMPORTANT THINGS IN LIFE

ALWAYS TAKE EXTRA CARE OF 3 THINGS IN LIFE:

PROMISE,

FRIENDSHIP, AND

RELATIONSHIP

BECAUSE THEY DON’T MAKE NOISE

BUT WHEN THEY BREAK THEY CREATE SILENCE

INTRODUCTION

The most precious things can easily become lost caused by outside circumstances.  Sometimes we cause ourselves to lose the things that mean the most to us.

THE IMPORTANCE OF PROMISE

A promise can go a long way in relationships.  Keeping promise builds trust. It also holds a lot of emotional value, so when a promise is broken, there is a decline of trust.

Promise is one of the vital part of building relationships.  When promises are followed through, it will serve to strengthen personal connections whether the connections are with families, friends or even to acquittances.

THE IMPORTANCE OF FRIENDSHIP

Studies have shown that friendship can help promote a long and happy life, thus playing an important role in mental health. Friendships are important in every life situation for most people.

THE IMPORTANCE OF RELATIONSHIP

Human is a relational being and without interaction, human will tend to lose their meaning to live.  Relationships are what define humans.  It gives human the cause to live and to become who they are meant to be.

Relationship is the most crucial factor for happiness and tend to be our reason to live.  Relationships includes with family, and good friends.

Thus we need to nurture the relationship. We do sometimes need to invest in relationship.  There’s also the downside of nurturing when we permit fracture in that relationship even to the extent of letting it become sour which may lead to disregard, resentment, judgment and even blaming.

We need to realise that each of us can contribute differently towards fostering relationships.

REFERENCES

1. https://www.goalcast.com/most-important-things-in-life/

2. https://www.promisesbehavioralhealth.com/addiction-recovery-blog/importance-of-a-promise/

THE PRECIOUS PAST

THE PRECIOUS PAST

The more precious your past is,

The more it should remain in your memories

ALICE (2020), KOREAN DRAMA, NETFLIX

INTRODUCTION

Past is something that has occurred before the present.  Past can also be used to refer to a time before and until the present.  In short, past is simply the set of all events that occurred before a given point in time.  In time, the past will be memories

Memories are very essential in our lives as they allow us to grow and learn to be a better person.  The reflections can help us learn very important life lessons.  Memories make us who we are. It plays a vital role in every aspects of our lives.  Memories also provides us with a sense of self and makes up our continual experience of life.

Some  people find bad experiences stands out more than the good memories

THE IMPORTANCE OF HAPPY MEMORIES

1. Forms the cornerstone of our identity

2. Helps with combating depression and loneliness

3. Influence our current happiness

4. Providing a framework for our hopes and dreams

5. Increase happiness

6. Helps make positive choices

7. Can be used to transform our life

FAMOUS QUOTES

1. AT SOME PART OF LIFE OR THE OTHER, WE ALL BECOME MEMORIES FOR OTHERS.  SO MAKE SURE YOU BE A GOOD ONE

Graciousquates.com

2. …THE ONLY REASON PEOPLE HOLD ON TO MEMORIES SO TIGHTLY IS BECAUSE MEMORIES ARE THE ONLY THING THAT DON’T CHANGE WHEN EVERYBODY ELSE DOES

Quotesgram.com

3. MEMORY IS A RECORD OF YOR PERSONAL EXPERIENCE.  IT IS A RECORD OF TRIAL AND ERROR, DEFEAT AND SUCCESS.  PAST FAILURES WILL WARN YOU AGAINST REPEATING THEM

Wilfred Peterson

Inspirationfeed.com

4. MEMORIES,

IMPORTANT YESTERDAYS,

WERE ONCE TODAYS,

TREASURE AND NOTICE TODAY

Gloria Gaither

Inspirationfeed.com

5. A BEAUTIFUL LIFE IS A COLLECTION OF UNFORGETABLE MOMENTS

Living.com.org

SUMMARY

Memories are destined to fade.  It can’t last forever.  People who have happy memories tend to be happier overall.  Remembering happy things from the past can improve mood and increase happiness.

REFERENCES

1. merrian-webster.com

2. dictionary.cambridge.org

3. wikipedia.org

4. www.albertafilipinojournal

5. www.goodtherapy.org.blog

6. www.marieclaire.co.uk

7. www.verywellmind.com

8. https://monq.com/eo/nostalgia/remembering-happy-memories-make-happier/

EFFECTIVE HANDLING OF OBJECTIONS

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In all organizations, there are people who do not have enough authority to say 'Yes', but they enjoy the freedom to refuse, to say 'No'.  Objections can be a minefield.

TIPS ON DEALING WITH OBJECTIONS

WHEN PRESENTING A PROPOSAL, PLACE YOURSELF IN THE SHOES OF OTHERS

think of all the possible objections they might raise and have appropriate answers or a best response

DON'T BE AFRAID OF OBJECTIONS

objections really indicate sincere interest

objection merely records they aren't in agreement with you for now with your current proposal

DO NOT DEAL WITH EACH OBJECTION THE MOMENT THEY ARE RAISED, DRIFTING FROM THE MAIN TOPIC

you risk giving more importance to the objections then they actually deserve

THE ABSENCE OF AUDIENCE RESPONSE AFTER PRESENTATION AND DISCUSSION MEANS THAT MOST OBJECTIONS HAVE SIMPLY BEEN LAID TO REST

There are two categories of objections:

1. Emotion Objections: triggered by an emotional response
2. Factual Objections: based on logical and factual reasoning

TECHNIQUES OF OVERCOMING OBJECTIONS

1. Answer question with a question

2. Allow others to speak

3. Acknowledge good points

4. Clarify statements made

5. Identify important points

6. Provide feedback

7. Soften objections by eliminating confrontation

8. Isolate the most important objection

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Shiv Prasad

Better Life

Accountants Today, April 2008

STOP PROCRASTINATING, START MOVING

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Putting off until tomorrow what you should do today may seem harmless, but procrastination can wreck havoc on your life by increasing stress and aggravating existing anxieties and feelings of guilt, powerlessness and worthlessness.  The first step to tackling procrastination is to recognize that it stems from habit.  All you need to do is adopt new habits to replace the old ones.

Taking Baby Step And Start Moving

1. JUST DO IT

schedule it early in the day

complete it early

if you get through, reward yourself

2. BREAK IT DOWN

start small

gradually increase

3. MAKE IT FUN

go with your heart

do what you like, so you'll enjoy it

4. THINK POSITIVE

picture how good you feel when you complete

think about the destination, not just the journey

5. ESTABLISH A SUPPORT SYSTEM

set goals for yourself and share them

ask for encouragement and assistance

6. STOP BLAMING THE WEATHER

7. KEEP LEARNING

gain knowledge and improve

apply what you learn

know that knowledge is power

shared from:

Santhi Ganesan

Healthy Mind & Soul

Shape, June 2007

MULTITASKING: THE REALITY

When you try to do too much at the same time, you sometimes wind-up getting nothing done properly.

Multitasking is so common in today's culture that some people thought it was 'normal'.  But findings shows that there are some impact on our brains and productivity levels in the corporate world.  According to the Harvard Business Review, multitasking has led to a drop in productivity and efficiency by up to 40%.  A study done by the National Bureau of Economic Research discovered that workers' performance deteriorated and projects were taking longer to complete.

Multitasking is just switching back and forth between tasks.  Hence, similar tasks are competing by using the same part of the brain, which slows it down between transitions.  So, if you are on the phone with a client while also typing an email, your room for error increases because the visual cortex is competing with the audio aspect of someone talking to you.  The same problem applies if you are talking on the phone while driving.  It's beside the point that you are  on hands-free because it is your brain who needs to focus its full attention on the road.

in one research study by Frank Drews, an assistant professor of psychology at the university of Utah found that people are as impaired when they drive and talk on a cell-phone as they are when they drink-drive at the legal blood-alcohol limit.

Doing too many things simultaneously means the brain losses its capacity to attend fully and gradually to anything (New York Times).  The best way to address this is to focus on one thing at a time and do it well.  When you are at work, truly be at work.

Shared From:

The Dangers of Multitasking

by Jojo Struys

Different Spin

Starmetro, 18 September 2015

CRAVING CHANGE FOR THE BETTER

We all hunger for transformation.  We want big changes, within short space of time.  we are no longer content with sitting by the site lines, waiting for things to change incrementally.  we want to see change, carved in the lines of the vision in our hearts and minds.

6 Common Strands To Make It Big And Achieve Dreams

1.   Envision the future

2.   Surround yourself with people who believed in their goals

3.   Don't listen to the naysayers, the negative critisms

4.   Forged on ahead regardless, buoyed by an inner confidence and self-belief

5.   Worked hard. Nothing comes easy

6.   Engaged with people

Bringing about small changes, much less transformative changes, has its share of challenges.  This is the lesson we all have to take to heart.  We need to stay true to our vision and continue ahead regardless of what challenges may come our way.

Credit to dadangkadarusman.com

Shared from article by:

Sheila Stanley

Different Spin

Starmetro, Friday 30 October 2015

HAPPINESS MATTERS

Credit to Quora

Happiness matters for a number of reasons.  The most important being that happiness enables passion, and passion creates energy.

Happiness brings energy and passion, and we add that to our work.  Social interaction can be very good for us.  The top doesn't have to be lonely if they are willing to make room on it for others.  Keep in mind that you are never alone unless you choose to be alone.

credit to Peaceful Mind Peaceful Life

MINDING YOUR MOBILE MANNERS

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Article by Richard Charles Nicholas Branson

SMEBiz, Monday 16, May 2016

Smartphones have become such an important part of modern life.  It seems that some people just can’t put their devices down.  Thus, the issue of smartphone etiquette has come up

No one foresee how completely these devices transform our lives.  But still to conduct a meaningful dialogue, you need to look at the other person in the eye.  As business leader or entrepreneur, it’s important to think about how you share your ideas.  But do you realize

·       How many times have you sent a series of texts or emails when a single phone call would have been more expeditious?

·       How many times have you sent a text to someone a few offices away rather than walk down the corridor and talk to them directly?

Ultimately, business is about relationships.

My notes:

Communication comprises of verbal and non-verbal communication.  Verbal communication has no meaning or desired effect without tonation, expression and body language.

Texts and emails are mere words without any tonation, expression and of course no accompanying body language may it be a smile on the face.  Texts and words can be read ini any form of tonation as being perceived by the reader.  Bear in mind that there are many ways/tone that can be put when reading texts and words.

So when it comes to texting and emailing, be careful of the words chosen when forming sentences.  Emojis do help…..But still, do be careful of perception.

LEADING EFFECTIVELY

According to Forbes.com, one of the top concerns in business is the lack of future leadership.  Good leaders are hard to find and are becoming increasingly valuable to their companies.  Thus, learning to be the leader every employer want is important.

Tips on learning to be the leader employer wants
1.	When asked about leadership skill and experience. -       Provide instances of how you helped others succeed -       Situation where you motivated others -       How you motivated other -       How you were able to help other improve or succeed at their goal -       Consider situations where you have overcome obstacles to achieve your groups’ goal. -       Situations may involve in social or non-profit organisation or clubs.
2.	Get leadership opportunities -       Do your work and follow the rules No one will trust you with big project if you can’t perform the most basic tasks
3.	Learn how the organisation works -       Be eager to learn -       Absorb knowledge and don’t be afraid to ask questions -       View the organisation as a whole -       Understand organisational inputs -       Understand why the procedures are the way they are
4	Help willingly -       Show enthusiasm and help others If you are willing to help, people will give you chance -       Offer to help experienced leader v  Opportunity to communicate and connect with people v  Chance to work with people in different departments v  May help you find mentors or other people with successful behaviours -       Identify opportunities and display efforts

                                                            Shared from article by:

                                                                                    William Lester

                                                                                    Leading effectively,

                                                                                    www.careerealism.com

                                                                                    The Star, Monday 19 Sept 2016

FIND A DELICATE BALANCE

Life is not a dress rehearsal.  You should embrace each day with enthusiasm, curiosity and energy.  This spirit will drive business success and inspire us to do some wonderful work through non-profit foundation.

              Parent support plays an important factor as they instilled valuable core principles.  They taught us that life is a gift and to live lives without regret.  The most important lesson taught is to treat people with respect and fairness.

             

              With all the valuable core principles instilled, we still need to find a delicate balance between confidence and humility, ambition and care for others.  We need more than just ambition and self-confidence.  Humility and the belief that you can make the world a better place is just as important

Shared from

Sir Richard Charles Nicholas Branson

Q&A

The Original Disruptor

SMEBIZ, Monday

29 August 2016

GETTING BACK UP AFTER A FALL

All of us faced all sort of physical obstacles along the way.  Sometimes it takes a great perseverance, solidarity and mental clarity to get through the adventure.  But, the toughest obstacle is the one that is inside our own heads.

              Most people consider others to be their toughest opponents.  Reality is that there is no tougher foe than yourself.  Only you yourself can determine the height you want to reach and putting the right mind set to reach the goals.

              It’s all about believing that you can grow through both failure and success. Remaining positive about your own abilities will enable you to chalk up losses as valuable experiences and get back on your feet.  It will be easier to forgive yourself and more on.  You can also be your own biggest supporter.

              Growth happens when you step out of your comfort zone, and the truly extraordinary happens when you do it with the support of others.

Shared from

Sir Richard Charles Nicholas Branson

Q&A

The Original Disruptor

SMEBIZ, Monday

19 September 2016