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READERS
DIGEST
October
2013
By
Bruce Feiler
What
are the ingredients that make some families resilient and happy? Researches have recently revealed stunning
insights into how to make families work more effectively. The single most important thing is to develop
a strong family narrative.
The
more children know about their families’ history, the stronger their sense of
control over their lives, the higher their self-esteem, and the more
successfully they relieved their families functioned. Children who have the most self-confidence
have a strong intergenerational self. They
know they belong to something bigger than themselves.
Jim
Collins, a Colorado management expert said that successful human enterprises of
any kind go out of their way to capture their core identity. The same applies to families. Most happy families also communicate
effectively. Communication also means
telling a passive story about yourselves.
The skill of overcoming hardship is particularly important for children
whose identity tend to solidify during adolescence.
If
you want a happier family, create, refine, and retell the story of your family’s
best moments and your relations ability to bounce back from the difficult
ones. The act alone may increase the
odds that your family will flourish for many generations to come.
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