12 THINGS TO START
DOING IN RELATIONSHIPS
(EXTRACTION FROM POST: 20 THINGS TO START DOING IN YOUR
RELATIONSHIPS, WRITTEN BY: MARC AT http://www.marcandangel.com)
1. Give people you don’t know
a fair chance.
Every person you look at has
a story. Everyone has gone through something that has
changed them, and forced them to grow.
Every passing face represents a story every bit as compelling and
complicated as yours. If you give them a
chance, everyone has something amazing to offer. Appreciate the possibility of new
relationships. Trust your judgment. Embrace new relationships, knowing that you
are entering into unfamiliar territory.
Be ready to learn, be ready for a challenge, and be ready to meet
someone that might just change your life forever.
2. Show everyone kindness and
respect.
Treat everyone with kindness
and respect, even those who
are rude to you – not because they are nice, but because you are. There are no boundaries or classes that
define a group of people that deserve to be respected. Treat everyone with the same level of respect
you would give to your grandfather and the same level of patience you would
have with your baby brother. People will
notice your kindness.
3. Accept people just the way
they are.
In most cases it’s
impossible to change people. Instead of
trying to change others, give them your support
and lead by example.
4. Encourage others and cheer
for them.
Appreciate how amazing the
people around you are and it
will leads to good places – productive, fulfilling, peaceful places. Be happy for those who are making
progress. Cheer for their
victories. Be thankful for their
blessings, openly. What goes around
comes around, and sooner or later the people you’re cheering for will start
cheering for you.
5. Forgive people and move
forward.
Don’t live your life
with hate in your heart. You will end up
hurting yourself more than the people you hate.
Forgiveness is the remedy. It
doesn’t mean you’re erasing the past, or forgetting what happened. It means letting go of the resentment and
pain, and instead choosing to learn from the incident and move on with your
life. The
less time you spend hating the people who hurt you, the more time you’ll have
to love the people who love you.
6. Do little things every day
for others.
Those little things may
occupy the biggest part of their hearts.
You can’t be everything to everyone, but
you can be everything to a few people.
7. Stay in better touch with
people who matter to you.
8. Keep your promises and tell
the truth.
It’s always better
to tell people the truth up front. Don’t play games with people’s heads and hearts. Don’t tell half-truths and expect people to
trust you when the full truth comes out; half-truths are no better than
lies. Love and friendship don’t
hurt. Lying, cheating and screwing with
people’s feelings and emotions hurts. Always
be open and honest.
9. Give what you want to
receive.
Start practicing the
golden rule. If you want love, give love. If you want friends, be friendly. If you want money, provide value. Don’t expect to get what you are not willing
to give.
10. Say what you mean and mean
what you say.
Don’t expect people
to know the unknowable. Information is the grease that keeps the engine of
communication functioning. Communicate
clearly. Don’t try to read other
people’s minds, and don’t make other people try to read yours. Most problems, big and small, within a
family, friendship, or business relationship, start with bad communication.
11. Allow others to make their
own decisions.
People are living a
different life than you are. Do not
judge others by your own past. What
might be good for one person may not be good for another. What might be
bad for one person might change another person’s life for the better. Allow people to make their own mistakes and
their own decisions.
12. Talk a little less, and
listen more.
Less advice is often the best
advice. People don’t need lots of advice, they need a
listening ear and some positive reinforcement.
What they want to know is often already
somewhere inside of them.
They just need time to think, be and breathe, and continue to explore
the undirected journeys that will eventually help them find their direction.
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